Dear Sugars,

I asked writer Angela Gulner to contribute the essay “Taking Back Their Power” as a part of the outreach we are doing with the organization It’s On Us.

It’s On Us is a national organization striving to create awareness on college campuses about sexual assault. Angela’s essay specifically addresses how colleges – and, in turn, we as a society – could improve upon the reaction to sexual assaults and sexual assault allegations, not – actually – the veracity of Miss Wilson’s allegations against her accused attacker.

We received a comment on the blog that I am choosing to address very publicly because- while I disagree with some of its content and tone – I think this is the exact discourse that needs to be happening at this time.

I repost the comment here, in its entirety:

“Interesting that you assume that there was a sexual assault here. Even though the College–using the ridiculously low standard of proof required by the feds–found none? And even though the police have not taken action?

I have to say, this idea of “realizing” that one has been sexually assaulted only four-six months after the alleged occurrence is disturbing to me. The physical evidence is gone; people’s memories are dimmed, if not manufactured.
If you want people to take sexual assault on campus seriously, there are a few steps to take: one, avoid intoxication to the point of not “knowing” you are being raped (this, I know, is non-PC, but I say it as what I would say to my teenage daughter); two, report any form of assault immediately to police, who are the only ones competent to address the crime; three, stop silly demands like depriving alleged rapists of important rights, including remaining on campus unless and until convicted of a crime or violation of school policy, and the adorably ignorant demand for “a precisely stated requirement for affirmative verbal consent.” This young woman is clearly not headed to law school.”

Appropriately, we received this comment on the National Week of Action’s designated day for “Supporting Survivors”, so this response to Orcasite is particularly well-timed, crucial and encompasses both topics of policy and support.

Angela’s column absolutely does assume there was a sexual assault because we were told there was. She and I both share the belief that we should strongly support survivors of rape and sexual assault.

Though there are often assertions made that accusers lie about assaults, statistics actually show that only 2-7 percent of sexual assault reports are false. If the burden of proof – and shame – continues to lie with the victims, we cannot offer victims assurance that coming forward is the right thing to do and we cannot decrease the number of instances of assault and rape.

But Angela wasn’t tasked with defending Madeline. She was raising questions about the campus policy that – disappointingly – isn’t limited to St. Olaf.

I address the comment from Orcasite, not to contest his/her beliefs about Madeline’s story, but to point out that the comment itself has much in common with the policy issues found on most college campuses which this piece DOES take issue with and which the St. Olaf students protest.

I understand Orcasite’s issue with the timeline of reporting and I think this is completely indicative of greater societal concerns:

a) we don’t educate and converse properly about sex and boundaries, and

b) we don’t have protections in place with consistent policy which allows victims to feel safe coming forward.